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Marketing for Bucks on Mother’s Day

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I have probably violated the blogging rules for blogging success.  As you know my blog is a little bit of a hodge podge.  I have self improvement techniques and posts for your personal life as well as your work life.

That is probably a blog no no if I want to get “targeted” readers.   Actually I would like targeted readers that do purchase what I am offering.  However, I honestly do not know what that really means if I ponder it.  I also honestly do not know who reads this blog. 

I do not get a lot of feedback so I keep going in the two areas of personal and work self improvement. 

This all leads me to todays post which maybe hodge podge and maybe not since I do not know the psyche of my readers.

Yesterday was Mother’s Day.  I usually dislike card holidays.  Card holidays are the ones where there is huge display of cards in the card section for a holiday.  On a philosophical level I think Mother’s Day should not be once a year.  I think that should be an every day thing. 

On the other hand I do like the idea that there is a day specifically where you honor and tell your mom she is appreciated and loved especially.  It would be thoughtless if this one day would be excluded from the card holidays. 

It is also nice to give your mom one day (hopefully many) where she is specifically treated special, respected and acknowledged. 

So here comes my pet peeve.  I market products on the internet.  I want to earn an income from doing this.  In that light I subscribe to many of the internet gurus and get daily e mails from them.

I got a lot of Mother’s Day e mails from them.  They love and respect their moms.  Now comes the part that really pissed me off.  In their e mail while talking about their moms and Mother’s Day they tried to sell me something.

I thought that was gauche.  I found it distasteful.  I found it disrespectful.  I do not think their moms would be proud of that nor them. 

I was turned off.  If they want to share about their moms and mothers, great.  Do that but do not throw in a sales message.  Show some humility.  Show some integrity.  Don’t try to capitalize on this.  If you must pitch a sale make a separate e mail.  Don’t combo something sacred with pitching a sale. 

It was just a big no no to me.  What do you think? 

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

May 14, 2007 Posted by | about me | 4 Comments

Great Quotes by the Great Buddha

scan001312.jpg   It’s Saturday.  Take a break and spend some time with yourself. 

Teachings of Gautam Buddha

On Judgmental People:
People with opinions just go around bothering each other.

On Anger:
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

On Truth:
Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.

On Anger:
You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger.

On Work:
To be idle is a short road to death and to be diligent is a way of life; foolish people are idle, wise people are diligent.

On Friends:
An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.
On Love:
You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.

On Envy:
Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.

On Good Deeds:
Neither fire nor wind, birth nor death can erase our good deeds.

On Thought:
The mind is everything. What you think you become.

On Gratitude:
Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.

On Hatred:
Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

PS What is your favorite quote and why?  What does it mean to and for you?

May 12, 2007 Posted by | change, choice, knowledge, self improvement | 6 Comments

Honesty

scan001311.jpg   Am I too honest when I tell you that I have a great product that will help you?

Am I too honest when I tell you to buy that product? 

Can you be “too honest?”

I do not believe that you can be “too honest.”  You have to ask for what you  want.  You have to ask clearly and directly.

Is that being blunt? Perhaps but it is also being straightforward and clear.  If you beat around the bush then you can be misunderstood.   You can  be considered wishy washy, weak, meek, a pushover.  Which is worse?  To be misunderstood and be thought of as wishy washy, weak, meek, a pushover or to be understood and thought of as blunt, straightforward and clear?  I think you know the answer.  

Let’s be clear.  Asking for what you want is not insulting someone.  It is about you and your wants and needs.  Asking for what you want clearly and direclty is an affirmative statement. 

You may not get what you want but if you ask for it you will know where you stand.  It is always better to know where you stand.

If the place you are employed at has no intention in the near future of giving you what you want you can make an educated choice.  Stay or go.  You now have control of your life.  You now have the information to make a decision. 

If you are reticient then you are afraid of what you will find out.  Why?  The truth will not change because you do not seek it. 

So ask for what you want.  Be honest.  Be clear.  Be straightforward.

Help is here.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

May 11, 2007 Posted by | assets, confidence, home business, self improvement, work, work at home, work at home business | 2 Comments

Get What You Want Out of Life

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Do you get what you want out of life?  I have been thinking about this a lot.  How do you get what you want out of life?  I have also been thinking about this a lot.

I have been observing people regarding this topic.  My final conclusion and observation is that you will and can not get what you want out of life is you make improper decisions/choices. 

Improper decisions/choices will affect you and there will be consequences.  When you make an improper decision/choice it can certainly look like the consequences were out of your control.  And they are once you make the wrong choice/decision. 

Here is an example of what I am talking.  Life is going good for you.  You are enjoying yourself.  Perhaps life was tough for a awhile so now you are relaxing and enjoying the peace, happiness and relaxation you are experiencing.  A decision/choice is coming up.  You are in the “happy things are good mode.”   You do not pay the proper attention to the upcoming decision.  Maybe you are careless.  Maybe you are in an upbeat mood.  Whatever the reason you slack off.  You do not put the thought and detail into the upcoming decision/choice. 

You decide or choose poorly.  Boom. Things happen that you do not want to happen.  All of a sudden your happy, gay mood is over.  You are now dealing with new issues and problems.  What happened? 

You made a mistake.  But you do not see it like that.  How you see it is you got screwed.  And maybe you did.  But could you have prevented it if you had made a different decision/choice.  Probably yes. 

Here is another example.  Your life is in the toilet.  You are up against the wall.  You have to do something.  You make your decision/choice out of desperation or the only thing you think can do.  Your choices are limited.  But how did it come to this?  How did you get to this point of desperation?  Probably from past decisions/choices that you made. 

Now you can see the harm and danger to you from improper decisions/choices. 

So how do you stop the cycle?  You protect yourself.  You find out all the information.  You ask questions.  You forget about looking silly by asking questions.  You ask away to protect yourself and get the information you need to make the best decisions/choices.  You do not make a decision/choice if you are not comfortable with it. 

You take your time in deciding/choosing.  You do not procrastinate.  You apply thought and care to your decision/choice. 

Once you make your decision/choice there is another step involved.  If the outcome does not turn out as you expected you have to take a step back.  You need to step back without emotion and negative judgement of yourself. 

Once you do this you review objectively.  Subjective review is not the way to go.  Objective review means you look at your decision/choice based on the facts and information you used. 

Was the information misleading?  Did you misinterpret the information?  Did you use the information and make your decision/choice counting on an outcome that the information did not actually support?  In other words were you hoping things would turn out the way you wanted them to? 

This can happen and the way to avoid it is to be objective.  Decide/choose based on only what you know to be true not what might happen.  By doing this you will narrow down your choices.

Did the information confuse you to the point that it was not helpful?  If this happens try to talk it over with someone.  Try to clarify the information.  Sort the facts out.  Get to the bottom line.  Eliminate extraneous information.  Get clear on what will actually happen and what may happen.  If you are still uncertain consider the worst consequences possible based on the possible decisions/choices you can make.  Eliminate the decisions/choices with these dangerous consequences. Decide/choose the one with the least harmful consequences. 

Take responsibility for your decisions/choices.  Taking reponsibility means that “you made the decision/choice.”  Taking repsonsibility does not mean blaming yourself or someone else for the outcome.  Taking reponsibility means that you did what you did.  The decision/choice was yours. 

Once you do this you will notice that life becomes lighter and easier even if the outcome was not what you expected.  Once you take reponsibilty you know that you are in control of your life.  You know that when you made a decision/choice that turned out the way you expected it to you gain confidence.  You also know that when the decision/choice did not turn out the way you expected you have the confidence to go from there. 

As long as you acknowledge and recognize your input you can learn and change from it.  You must own your decisions/choices.  They must be yours and come from you.

Perhaps you made the best decision/choice and it still did not turn out how you wanted.  Let it go.  You can not predict the future.  See if there were past decisions/choices that got you to this place.  See how you can avoid, in the future, getting to a place where even the best decision/choice will not turn out the way you want. 

Decision/choices lead to more decisions/choices.  The best way to break the cycle of harmful decisions/ choices is to start now.  Clean up what happened in the past and start fresh now. 

Your clean up will be messy.  That is to be expected.  Once you get that tackled and you can start on your new mind set you will notice that there will be less and less clean up. 

You will be teaching yourself how to decide/choose in a way that will protect you.  You will be teaching yourself how to decide/choose in a way that will benefit you.  You will be teaching yourself how to decide/choose in a way that will help you gain confidence.  You will be teaching yourself how to decide/choose in a way that will help you take responsibility for your life.  You will be teaching yourself how to decide/choose in a way that will get you what you want in life. 

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

May 10, 2007 Posted by | choice, competence, confidence, decision, how to succeed, knowledge, self improvement, success | Leave a comment

Tagged Again

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I got tagged again.  Still excited about it.  I have a tiny inferiority complex over it though.  The person that tagged me sophiagurl  did a beautiful job of answering the tag questions.  She also has illustrations and a gorgeous layout on her blog page.  

This time the tag is LIST SEVEN RANDOM FACTS OR HABITS YOURSELF

FACT ONE

I am not a technical person.  WordPress and I are in conflict.  Sometimes I have a problem adding the photo you see every day.

FACT TWO 

I wish I was taller.  

FACT THREE

I am attracted to and love purses. handbags, attache cases etc.  I have a tiny collection of whimsical and stunning purses. 

FACT FOUR

I like brainstorming.  I like to hear ideas from anyone.  These conversations can stimulate me and enhance my creativity.

FACT FIVE

I adore artistic people.  I wish I was an artist.

FACT SIX

When I was a teenager my friends always wanted me to meet their parents.  Parents loved me and that pleased my friends.  So when my friends wanted to lie to their parents about where they were or going I was the excuse/lie/person  they were with.

FACT SEVEN

I may have my times of despair and sorrow but I am an optimist forever.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

PS Here is the blog that I found so lovely and the one that tagged me.

 Sophiagurl  http://mumshavelivestoo.blogspot.com/

PPS Shortly I will find the blogs I will tag.  sigh – more work!

May 9, 2007 Posted by | about me | 1 Comment

Internet Marketing Mania Rocks

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Internet Marketing Mania is for you only if:

you are a serious interent marketer

you want to succed

you want to save money

you want to gain time

you are shrewd

you are sharp

you know a good thing when you see it

you know the difference between an investment and wasting money

you want to take your business to the next level

you are ready to get what you deserve

Marcia Your Confidence Coach

May 9, 2007 Posted by | home business, how to succeed, internet marketing, work, work at home, work at home business | Leave a comment

Internet Marketing Mania Hits the Internet

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Why am I still on this topic??? Because sometimes my job here is to make sure you succeed. I know I can’t make you successful. But I can introduce you to tips, ideas, techniques and products that can help you succeed.

Internet Marketing Mania is a must have to get you going, to get you on the path to success.

Why haven’t you checked it out?

  • You don’t trust me. OK so don’t trust me (although I am a little disheartened by this, if it is true). Check it out for yourself. It is a software package. You can read what it does. It is a tangible product. It is not a method. It is not a concept. It is a real actual product that you can use.
  • You don’t need it. Sorry but this is a misconception on your part. You do need it.
  • Too expensive. Time is money. Save time, save money.  And You won’t believe the price It’s that inexpensive.
  • Can’t afford it. You can’t be  serious about Internet marketing.
  • Thinking about it. OK think and think but what are you waiting for? Either you realize you need it and get it or you are not serious about Internet marketing. Sorry to be a broken record but the truth is the truth.

You already got it. Smart person.

Internet Marketing Mania is the future. Click here to see what you must have now.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

May 8, 2007 Posted by | home business, how to succeed, internet marketing, self improvement, success, work at home, work at home business | 3 Comments

Internet Marketing Mania

scan00136.jpg  It is finally here!!!   You are hearing about this for the first time.

Internet Marketing Mania is the latest, newest, best software package around.  This package will save you time.  This package will make you money.  This package is a must have.  You can not do without this package.

WHY????  It includes TEN (10) pieces of software.  The price is $97.00.  That is $9.70 per software product.  $9.70 for business, professional software that you must have. 

The Internet Marketing Maniac is selling this product below cost.  He must be a maniac and a nut but who cares.  You get the benefit of this low, low price of this most excellent software. 

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 What a confidence booster to be able to purchase something so valuable and useful at such a discounted price. 

If you are a serious internet marketer you must have this package.  I know I used a lot of adjectives here but honestly check it for yourself. 

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

May 6, 2007 Posted by | home business, how to succeed, internet marketing, self improvement, success, work at home, work at home business | Leave a comment

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Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

May 4, 2007 Posted by | home business, work, work at home, work at home business | 3 Comments

Dream Job – Don’t Get Scammed

scan00132.jpg  Can you work from home?  Can you find that right home based business/job?  Yes you can.  And you will need to take your search and research seriously.  It will be work to find your dream job. 

Anyone that is turned off should stop reading now.  If the idea of work and research is a downer to you then you are not ready to be your own boss.  Ground work  is essential to finding a home based business/job.  You need to know what you are getting into so you can deal with it and succeed. 

If you want it to be easy then this post is not for you.  Easy and finding the right work at home business/job are not complementary.  That does not mean it will be so difficult to find the correct work at home business/job that you will be in extreme stress and distress.  I just don’t want the slackers.

I want the dedicated and the people that are serious.  Now that the slackers have left the room let’s get started.

You want a home based business/job.  You want your dream home based business/job.  You do not want to get scammed by all the dream houses, dream cars and tons of cash that is dangled in front of by the ones that know the answer. 

Don’t get scammed!!!!

You just want the straight facts.  No one makes money simply by joining a website or MLM.  You have to work the program.  But how about starting out with a program you can and will work. 

That is where this report will be of value to you.  If you learn the ins and outs of finding your dream business/job you will be ahead of the game. 

Read the report and set yourself up to succeed.  Get the facts.  Get the information that can help you make the choice that is right for you. 

The report is concise, clear and easy to read and follow.  The report is your foundation.  The report will give you the key to get started.

Help Wanted

Serious people who are sick and tired of working for others.  Serious people who are sick and tired of taking orders from others.  Serious people who want a better, more satisfying, stimulating career.  Serious people who want to enjoy their work.  Serious people who want to be in charge of their own lives.  Apply here.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

May 3, 2007 Posted by | being the boss, change, choice, home business, how to succeed, knowledge, work at home, work at home business | 11 Comments