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Wrong Side of the Bed

scan00131.jpg   Did you get up on the wrong side of the bed today?  I do sometimes.  Once that happens things can go from bad to worse.  The first little thing that upset your day may seem tiny compared to the next bigger things that occur.  Then comes the downward spiral.  Cursing, irritation, bad mood etc.  Your day can be ruined in  a matter of minutes. 

Here is another scenerio.  You wake up excited and happy or maybe just ok.  Then you get side swiped.  Bad news, bad stuff.  Why???  Who knows?  Who even cares anymore.  All you care about is that the day is no longer going the way you wanted it to.  Stress, anxiety, disappointment.  You know the drill.  You live the drill.  You are resigned to the drill.

Here is where it gets scary.  You expect the drill.  STOP.  You do not deserve the drill.  You deserve better.  You are a good person.  You try. 

Circumstances intercede.  Maybe some of them could have been avoided if only you knew they were coming.  If only you knew that what you said or did or did not say or do soemtime ago would come back to haunt you.

Let’s take a new approach.  You are not a mind reader.  You can not live your life analyzing every word and movement.  Besides you probably do that to some degree.  You probably did not tell off your boss although you wanted to .  You knew better.  You know a lot. 

So let’s assume these things will happen from time to time.  Let’s take a better approach to deal with these unforeseen things. 

Are you with me?  Or are you still back there hitting yourselffor not knowing that something you did or did not do is now biting you.  Forget about it.  It is done and over.  You are here now feeling badly. 

So what do you do with feeling badly?  The answer is so simple you are going to be irate with me.  Don’t get mad at me but here it is.  You do something that makes you feel better.  You accomplish something to give you a boost.  You congratulate yourself on a success. 

Why look at your disappointments when you can easily look at your successes?  If you don’t like the scenery in your head change the view. 

This all sounds good, right?  But you are resisting.  Too simple, not do able, silly.  Maybe but do you want to try it or do you want to stay feeling bad? 

You choose.  I do.  I choose to get out the muck and get into the scenery I enjoy. 

Bad day, good day.  It is your day.  It is your life. 

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

May 2, 2007 - Posted by | change, choice, de stressing, self improvement, success

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